Memory Card

Today as I was making lunch, Mac & Cheese, for the girls. Earlier they had been playing with a Disney Princess memory card game. Kenleigh had brought several to the table and was laying them all out. Joce got upset because Kenleigh had lots of memory cards and she didn't have any. I told here there were several in the living room but she just kept on fussing. So finally I carried her in there so she could see for herself and of course she found some and brought them back to the table while Kenleigh collected all the rest. After playing for a bit and counting how many cards each had Joce notices that she didn't have a match of one of the little mermaid cards. I told her it was ok and that she really didn't need a match. It didn't work she cried about it and I kept telling her that it was ok. She got upset with Kenleigh and tried to take her card. So I took them both away. And Joce went crying to her room and closed the door.
Kenleigh stayed in the kitchen with me and I talked to her about why Joce was sad and that Kenleigh could be the bigger person and do the right thing by maybe giving Jocelyn the card. But I wanted Kenleigh to want to give it to her. I didn't want to force Kenleigh to give it to her. I told Kenleigh, “Kenleigh, you want to be the bigger person so I would like you to give joce your mermaid card." Ok, maybe I did tell her to give it to Joce but I wanted it to come from her heart. "Don’t you want her to say years from now. Kenleigh, you’re the bestest sister I ever had! Remember that time you gave me the memory card?” Well, a few years from now Jocelyn probably won't remember the memory card but it was relevant at the time. She thought about it for a  couple of seconds and nodded her head. I gave her the memory cards and she went to give them to Joce. They were both in there for a few minutes and I wasn't hearing any fighting or anything out of them so I was walking to their room when I ran into Kenleigh and I asked her if Joce was happy that Kenleigh gave her the mermaid cards. She nodded and said Joce was happy. I gave her a big hug and told her I was so proud of her. I was proud of her decision and still am. I really think she wanted to give Jocelyn the cards although it took a little help from me for her to see that she did it and that's what counts. :)